I have numb spots in my brain and I’ve come to feel that I need them. Sometimes they help me in my work and sometimes they prevent me from freaking out. When I was little, some of the neighborhood parents created a girls’ club for girls my age. They asked us to suggest names, and I suggested the name Us Guys. The lady in charge suggested we change it to Us Gals. By a show of hands, we voted and agreed we would call ourselves Us Gals. The name won by a solid margin and when it was over, one hand was still up. I was talking to my girlfriend after the vote with my hand sticking up in the air like some sort of spaced-out flagpole.
“Put your hand down,” my friend Toni whispered. For a second there, I looked up at it completely confused. What the heck? As I slid my hand down to my lap, I wondered how someone could forget something like that. I figured that those nightmares about forgetting to get dressed before school could actually come true. Not good but oh well.
The numb spots, which are actually similar to ischemic scar tissue, are located around the base of my brain near my amygdala. The doctor suggested that as a cave woman, I would have had a short life because the scar tissue would have messed with my fight or flight response—key instincts that would have signaled the presence of serious danger triggering flight would have given way to curiosity and… chomp!
My sister and I were blessed with curly hair and used Mom’s iron and ironing board to straighten each other’s unruly locks. One day Mom showed me a picture of a girl in a magazine who had the same kind of hair as mine. But this girl had just split her hair down the middle and let it go wild. They called it a hairstyle! I loved it! All the hippie chicks were doing it! Then my amazing mother said these inspiring words to her very naughty thirteen-year-old baby girl “Don’t ever let me catch you doing this!”
Once I let my hair go wild, I felt like a fledgling hippie so I started to experiment. These experiments may very well have added a few more numb spots. In any event, I am grateful to be here to tell the story.
As I tell the details of this story in my book, C’mon Let’s Play! Living, Playing and Moving Forward, I think those bad choices combined with the great choices and my research helped me to be a better coach. I typically coach people who are looking for a new job or looking to make a change in their lives. Sometimes people not only lose their job, but they lose their confidence due to the circumstances around the change. My role is to connect them to information. Information like recruiters, job openings, networking, and most importantly with themselves. It’s shocking how many people don’t know what they love to be doing at work let alone having a vision of their perfect life! My favorite part of the process I use is helping clients define key elements of what they enjoy doing the most and finding a way to incorporate that into the search. It’s always difficult to be successful in a journey if you don’t have a destination in mind.
What’s your plan If you want help making your own plan, I am running a special starting Feb 15, 2021. I will help the first 10 people create their own plans. Just read the book, leave a review and send an email to Dee@SuberlaConsulting.com with “Let’s Play & Plan” in the email subject line. If you’re interested in help with your plan after the first 10 people just pay $27 for a 45-minute Zoom meeting to make create your plan to move forward. This offer ends at midnight Central Time February 28, 2021.
C’mon Let’s Play! Living, Playing and Moving Forward
Living, Playing and Moving Forward By Dee G Suberla